Category Archives: I’m cool like that!
You might see that heading and think that you will be reading a post all about the perils of eating that accompanying the holidays. Good guess, but not so.
As part of “Project Positivity” I am coming to a realization that one of the easiest ways to shift from my negative thinking–particularly directed toward myself–is to focus on the things that I am grateful for.
So, from time to time, I will post about the things that I am particularly thankful for at the time (aka the category of Thankitude). I will start today…..
Today, I am grateful for my body. Yes, I know that it is at the heart of what I berate myself about from time to time. While I’m not 100% happy with my appearance, I am so very grateful for my body. It is a strong body. For the most part it is a healthy body. I’m grateful for my pretty eyes and for my crooked smile. I’m grateful for my thick (albeit fine) hair. I’m thanks for strong arms that allow me to hug the people in my life. I’m grateful for a voice that allows me to sing and express myself. I’m grateful for all of the little scars that remind me of the good and the not so good times in my past. I’m grateful for good hearing and eyesight. I’m grateful for mostly straight teeth. I am grateful that I can run, and jump, and swim, and work, and play, and sleep, and eat. People…..I have it good! I’m grateful for this body!
My challenge to you the next time you want to pick apart things about your appearance, to sit down with a piece of paper and for every thing you don’t like about your body — match it with two things you are thankful for about your body. I promise you, your opinion of yourself and your body will be forever changed.
After doing this myself, I am so much more dedicated to taking care of what I have rather than wanting the things that are not. I am thankful!
We don’t have to look far to find the wise counsel from prophets, philosophers, and even the guy down the street to know that the very thoughts we think have a great impact on how we act, what we do, and who we become. Throughout time we can find many who teach us that our thoughts are tools with which we build our circumstances—our very reality.
I can see now how my negative thoughts about myself and what I repeatedly tell myself have created the very things in my life that I feared—the very things that bring the most hurt and sorrow into my life.
IT STOPS NOW!
I had a whole post written that went into detail about the things I berate myself about and it just doesn’t feel right to focus on that. I can’t, for even one more post, make the things I dislike about myself and the many untruths I think about myself the focus of my thoughts.
I JUST WON’T DO IT!
It is so easy to fall into the trap of picking out the things we don’t like about ourselves, things we need to work on, or even things we may believe about ourselves that are not really true and obsess about them. In the fray of flogging ourselves for our alleged shortcomings, we completely forget about all of the good that we have and that we are.
The solution, my friends, is to challenge the negative thoughts. Are they true? If they are, make a plan to correct them. Take responsibility for making your life what you want it to be. If they aren’t then kick them to the curb. Show them the door. Don’t spend another minute fussing over or feeling bad about things that are just plain wrong. You owe it to yourself. You owe it to those who love you. You owe it to the God who gave you life.
If, like me, you have done this a lot throughout your life you may be tempted to focus on the time you have lost to living in such an unproductive manner. Yes, it is sad. Get over it. MOVE ON! Dwelling on the follies of the past will only bring a future filled with the same. Learn from the past. Correct your course of action. Create a future worthy of the wonderful person you already are.
In light of all of this new positivity, I’m embarking on a new little pet project to help me recognize and remember the good things about being me. It may seem a bit self-indulgent, but I plan to share those insights here weekly. It won’t be easy for me because it already feels a little bit like bragging and I’m uncomfortable tooting my own horn. However, I have a feeling that this change in attitude—more than the exercise or the eating right—is the one thing that has been missing in my previous attempts to lose weight and will be the key to getting things moving in the right direction.
Say something nice to yourself today!