These four words instantly instill fear and anxiety in any girl who has ever struggled with her weight and simultaneously has the need to wear a work uniform, a team t-shirt, etc. where the advertised size is “one size fits all.” My response to this is usually a very skeptical “We’ll see,” complete with eye roll and a deep sigh—all the while running 80 excuses to leave the situation through my anxiety ridden brain. 🙂
Why then, have I fallen into the “one size fits all” fitness trap? For some reason I have taken myself down a path that has provided me with many days and night of feeling like a failure by trying to force myself into a particular work out program or routine that has worked for someone else and just doesn’t seem to fit the bill for me. Don’t get me wrong. I think probably any program out there could work for any person as long as the two are in synch.
What I am learning is that I am the expert on me (novel thought, I know 😉 ). I know what feels right. I know what my physical capabilities are. I know what my limitations are. I know what the right fit is for my temperament and personality in the current moment. If I’m honest, temperament and personality play into this equation a whole lot more than I would have thought.
And guess what? It is OK to try something and decide you don’t like it or it isn’t working for you right now. You can keep trying programs on for the right fit, just like you can try on different sizes and styles of clothing to make sure you find what fits and flatters you best.
I’ve been in a pattern for a while now of beating myself up for not meeting my own expectations and it just dawned on me that I don’t have to do what everyone else is doing or what I think I “should” be doing based on my view of the external world. I’m smart enough to take the tools given to me and design what will be best for me. After all, I know me better than anyone else in the world.
It just gets better from here!