As a (wo)man thinketh . . .
We don’t have to look far to find the wise counsel from prophets, philosophers, and even the guy down the street to know that the very thoughts we think have a great impact on how we act, what we do, and who we become. Throughout time we can find many who teach us that our thoughts are tools with which we build our circumstances—our very reality.
I can see now how my negative thoughts about myself and what I repeatedly tell myself have created the very things in my life that I feared—the very things that bring the most hurt and sorrow into my life.
IT STOPS NOW!
I had a whole post written that went into detail about the things I berate myself about and it just doesn’t feel right to focus on that. I can’t, for even one more post, make the things I dislike about myself and the many untruths I think about myself the focus of my thoughts.
I JUST WON’T DO IT!
It is so easy to fall into the trap of picking out the things we don’t like about ourselves, things we need to work on, or even things we may believe about ourselves that are not really true and obsess about them. In the fray of flogging ourselves for our alleged shortcomings, we completely forget about all of the good that we have and that we are.
The solution, my friends, is to challenge the negative thoughts. Are they true? If they are, make a plan to correct them. Take responsibility for making your life what you want it to be. If they aren’t then kick them to the curb. Show them the door. Don’t spend another minute fussing over or feeling bad about things that are just plain wrong. You owe it to yourself. You owe it to those who love you. You owe it to the God who gave you life.
If, like me, you have done this a lot throughout your life you may be tempted to focus on the time you have lost to living in such an unproductive manner. Yes, it is sad. Get over it. MOVE ON! Dwelling on the follies of the past will only bring a future filled with the same. Learn from the past. Correct your course of action. Create a future worthy of the wonderful person you already are.
In light of all of this new positivity, I’m embarking on a new little pet project to help me recognize and remember the good things about being me. It may seem a bit self-indulgent, but I plan to share those insights here weekly. It won’t be easy for me because it already feels a little bit like bragging and I’m uncomfortable tooting my own horn. However, I have a feeling that this change in attitude—more than the exercise or the eating right—is the one thing that has been missing in my previous attempts to lose weight and will be the key to getting things moving in the right direction.
Say something nice to yourself today!